Mental pressure faced by men – A largely neglected issue

Did you know that 19th November was International Men’s Day? The day came and went, largely unnoticed. While Children’s Day and Women’s Day attract a lot of public attention and celebration, Men’s Day doesn’t generate that kind of buzz.

This is true for several things related to men, especially problems faced by men. Since men are regarded as the stronger sex, they are expected to manage their issues by themselves. In fact, if a man admits to having a problem it is considered a sign of weakness.

Whether it is family responsibilities or professional commitments, there is a lot of physical and mental stress involved even in the everyday life of men. Providing for the families’ financial needs, giving them emotional and physical security are on a man’s shoulders in most households. At the work front, there is a constant job security threat or long duration working hours. If they are running their own business, then they are in charge of the livelihoods of their employees too!

In all these circumstances, there is a silent and constantly building physical exertion and mental pressure on the men. But they don’t share their burdens with friends and family as easily as women do.

The issues of stress and depression affecting people in the middle of their careers is especially true for celebrities. Recently we saw the case of Australian cricketing super star Glen Maxwell taking an indefinite break from professional cricket. He cited depression and mental health issues as the reason. And that was a very bold and rare move! Many times, the men themselves don’t realize their feeling of low self-esteem or motivation is a symptom of a medical condition. Even if they do recognise the issue, they are reluctant to confide in others.

A continually stressed or depressed mind should be dealt with promptly. When left unattended, the problem could spiral into a severe, irreversible mental condition. There are some concrete steps that men can take to relieve themselves of their mental duress. A few of the pointers are listed below:

1 – Recognize the state of depression as abnormal first. Only then you will take steps to deal with it. Don’t go on silently enduring the stressful condition because you don’t want to alarm your family. Or worse, you don’t want to come across as a weak person! It takes a lot of strength admit that something is bothering you. So take that first step. Admit.

2 – Confide with a trusted aide or a mental health professional.Getting us out of trouble and standing by us no matter what. That’s what families are for. So take the initiative, identify a family member and confide your problem. Or contact a mental health counsellor. Cry if you have to. Who said men are not allowed to cry. Outpouring of stress or grief is a natural vent to your feelings. You will feel much lighter once you’ve got it off your chest.

3 – Pick a de-stressing workout of your choice.  Plenty of physical exertion can help reduce the stress levels. So whether it is playing Badminton or hitting the Gym, take up a sporting/outdoor activity. It acts as a great stress reliever. If you can dedicate an hour a day to Yoga and Pranayama, then that is simply the best cure to a depressed mind. Yoga will restore a sense of calm and balance within you. No problem in life is really worth fretting over, that is the state of detachment that Yoga can bring about.

4 – Keep your finances secure. When your monetary position is somewhat stable, that itself is a huge burden lifted from your shoulders. Whether you fear imminent job loss or your business is undergoing a temporary slump, one way to insulate your family from the problem is good financial planning. Make prudent investments in stable and secure long term financial instruments. Take your pick from fixed deposits, mutual funds, government small savings schemes, PPF, chit funds and so on. So that even if the going gets tough for a while, your savings can tide you over the crisis.

We at Shanthala Chits have always considered ourselves as equal partners in the financial stability and welfare of our investors. We strongly believe that a strong and motivated man can tackle any challenge that life throws at him. So we urge our readers and depositors to take their mental well-being seriously. Wish you all a healthy and happy life ahead.

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Anuradha C

Anuradha is a freelance writer cum corporate trainer in the IT/telecom domain with over 18 years experience. She served in senior technical and management positions in Huawei and TCS for 10+ years. Then gave up the traditional corporate ladder to go solo - in order to escape horrendous city traffic and to be at her own boss!
Anuradha C

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